Throughout history the phenomenon of the younger woman and way, way, way older man has been accepted if not back-slappingly admired.Not only is the tradition of men dating younger women more common and often more extreme in age difference, the male set hasn't even been saddled with a nickname. In Richard Roeper's recent column on the subject a reader suggested "Dingo." Yes, the mangy, scavenging dogs are predators.Think 29-year-old PR Amanda Sheppard, who recently ensnared pop pensioner Bryan Ferry, 66."This new definition of puma seems to have surfaced with the release of a study in February 2012 -- commissioned by UK matchmaking website The Picnic Project -- on what women want in a man.According to The Picnic Project, "These ' Pumas' - so called because they're interested in dating Previously Married and Attractive men - hail a new trend in women seeking experience over youth."The idea that divorced men who have lived, loved and lost will treat their potential mates with more sensitivity, care, and understanding than younger men appears to have caught on in the UK; the Daily Mail Online, drawing from The Picnic Project's findings, concludes "more than half a million women would rather date a mature divorced man than someone younger than them. I’m very happy to talk about my past but I also talk about my future because I believe I have one. If you are a single guy in his 30s dating a peer-group female she will generally want to know where it is going in terms of marriage and babies, which is not always what the man wants.They ask my advice about relationship issues with younger women and we’ll talk about modern culture. Dating an older woman releases them from the tension of those questions and demands.I enjoy the fact that they are looking to their future. If you date an older man he will hog the conversation and talk about his achievements, often not allowing the female to get a word in because he believes having been born so much earlier means that he has more value than the woman.
Despite Moore's attempt to use the terms interchangeably, a puma is widely regarded as a woman under 40 who prefers younger men while the cougar label is applied to women in their 40s and 50s who seek out younger male companions who are at least 10 years younger and often half their age. Did you ever think that the slinky black panther was a jaguar with skin disease? When she has melanism, the polka dot — or is that polka-rosette — jaguar turns into a mean black panther.While May-December heterosexual romances are par for the course, there is often a double standard when it comes to women dating younger men, even when those women are just in their 30s.
For example, actress Jamie-Lynn Sigler caught a lot of public flak when she announced her engagement. In Great Britain, journalist Hanna Betts describes a puma as "a single woman in pursuit of a mature partner with experience under his belt.
Their close relative Hyena is a little less attractive.